Love of My Life

Sandi Donecker/Photo Duane Donecker

This is something I've been wanting too post for a long time now and now I have the chance to do so.  As you all  know things for me and my family have been rough the last few years, and I haven't gone in to complete detail yet and right now is not the time for that because I have some personal issues going on and can't do that but soon the time will come.

The subject of this post is a wonderful, beautiful, faithful and loyal woman; her name is Sandi Donecker and she is my wife of now 11 years and soon to be in January 12 years and all together we have been with each other for almost 14 years, not only is she my wife she is my best friend. Since retiring from the navy in Dec 2005 I was diagnosed with FSH Muscular Dystrophy and a few years later Sandi with Fibre Mialga.

To date we have lost every thing we have owned, we have moved 8 times to 5 different states trying to get back on our feet and too tale you the truth right now we have finally got to we are rebuilding our lives.  First I want to say to Sandi that I love you so very much, You are my everything. Sandi has stood faithfully by my side as I led this family into near disaster when many women would have left and I sometimes wonder how she could put up with having nearly nothing, but today I know why it's because though worldly possessions can be important to her the most important thing too her has been family, me and our son Jesiah and though I have made many mistakes and have not been the husband and father that God created me to be, Sandi has always believed in me, that being that husband and father that God created me to be has always been there waiting inside me and I am so grateful to her for standing by me and although I accepted Christ as my savior back on Oct 31, 1998 I am just now realizing the power he has place in my hands as a man, a husband and a father and that is what Sandi's faith in me has taught me about my faith in the Lord.

This may seem like I am rambling but I simply want to publicly say to my wife, best friend and faithful companion that God has blessed me with for life and I know that we will be together as our vows state until death do we part Thank You for believing in me and standing by me for the last 6 years of hell but today I vow to you that is all the past and our future is bright because your faith in me has built my faith in the Lord and helped me now believe in myself.

Sandi Marie Donecker I love you forever, you are a great wife and a wonderful mother and I can't thank you enough for what you have done for me!!

Where have I been?

Hello to everyone and I just want to say I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving and ate a lot, because I know that I did, sorry it's been so long since I have posted in any of my blogs but once again I went into the hospital for 30 days and am doing good, I am really trying to beat this muscular dystrophy, but I am doing good.  I have some pain but not as bad as it used to be. I am trying to walk at least 3 miles a day so my legs and hips stay strong, and now I am living in Spring Valley, Ca. and my walking path is nothing but hills now so my hips should stay strong.  I never went and got the cane my Neurologist recommended I don't want to have to rely on any thing but myself and my family. well this is it for now but I will post more later now that I am settled again.

Retired military man recently moved to Greenfield, In with wife and 5 year old son, looking for employment - Classified Ad

Retired military man recently moved to Greenfield, In with wife and 5 year old son, looking for employment - Classified Ad

Ok now you are probably thinking, Oh there Duane goes again saying that he's going to catch up on all his blogs, well I just want to say I am sorry for not keeping up on my blogs, however I am starting to feel better now and really want to try and work on each and everyone of my blog at least once a week.

Currently my favorite blogs are Navy's of the World, the military of the world blog, 44 college student and this one. So I am not giving anyone a promise because my health can drop dramatically with out warning.

Happy Saturday

Jesiah at JFK Park in El Cajon/photo Duane Donecker

Hello everyone one, thought I would stop in and just say hi, I was planning on going out and just doing things today but it seems I have been out running all week, and today has turned out to be a cloudy cool day so I guess I will most likely stay home and work on my blogs and some other things.

I have been feeling really good lately since I got out of the hospital myself and have new medications that are non narcotic, I have actually felt more motivated now than I have in a long time. I will start school again on the 21st and this will be a short fast paced semester but I know I can handle it and I am really looking forward to it, except they are all going to be night classes and I happen to be a morning person and that is going to take a bit to get used to, and not having a vehicle it self is going to be a challenge but these are all things I know I can work around.

I have been doing a lot of walking lately, and I mean a lot of walking probably about 10 miles a day, but I have found lately that my hips have been becoming weak associated with my FSH Muscular dystrophy so I am just trying to exercise as much as I possibly can with out tiring myself out.  I have also found that because of the effects it is having on my upper body (neck, shoulders, chest and arms) it is hard to get any kind of employment were I can last long so though I've never wanted to do it I am going to apply for disability. I have to fight off the pride and realize I have a family I have to take care of and at least until I receive my degree and can begin teaching I will need that as I still have about 36 months until I will finish my degree.

Well I guess this is enough rambling for now, I hope you all have a great weekend, although for us it looks like there is rain on the horizon for us again. God Bless you all and have a wonderful day.

Can't beleive it's been that long

Hello everyone I can't believe it has been since December since I last posted on this blog, I guess the stresses of life are catching up on me and I am falling behind. I have been doing pretty good, although there has been a rash of immediate family emergency's happening in the past few months that I don't want to get into here, but just for example my wife is currently in the hospital but she is getting well and should be home in a few days.

I have been have been thinking some of what has been going on in the world the last few months, starting with Egypt and Libya and now the earthquake and tsunami in Japan, the outlook on the news always seems bleak when you watch the news, yet it is like passing by a bad car crash, for me anyways I find it hard to stop watching. I have to remember that this is our world and we live in it, good news and bad news. Like I said I have had some awful things going on in my family but I try to keep a optimistic outlook on life.

One of the problems is that I have FSH Muscular Dystrophy which many times limits my abilities, my body may seem old and crippled at times even though I am only 45 years old, however I feel blessed because there are many people in my family how have the same disease, (as it is genetic) and many of them are in wheel chairs and must be assisted in various ways through out their day. At this time I find that once I get up and have my medications (now all currently non-narcotic) I can get up and make the best of my day, wether  it is hanging out with my wife Sandi and my 5 year old Son, Jesiah (who for sure keeps me on my toes) or going to school, anything I have to do that day. Right now I try to live it one day at a time and that is all I can do. If I try to look to far in the future it can be depressing.

Today Jesiah is with grandma and like I said above my wife is currently in the hospital and I went today and visited her and had a meeting with her doctors and the outlook is very good and she should be home by Thursday. So after the meeting I went to my school (San Diego City College) and took care of some paper work than just took my time coming home so I could enjoy the surroundings.

San Diego and the surrounding communities are very beautiful and have much to offer, and to many time's I take all these things for granted, so I took a walk and just took it all in, from the beautiful hills and mountains where I live in El Cajon, the flowers and just the many people going about their daily lives. It made me think of the things going on in the wold today with Libya and Japan and made me remember how blessed I am to be living here in the United States of America.

I served 20 years in the US Navy and have visited over 30 nations and none compare to this great homeland of ours, yes I liked many of the countries I have visited such as Japan and Australia but still I believe their quality of life is nothing compared to what we have and could have. My only problem with this country is that to many people take things for granted and are very greedy to the point they are willing to rob and even murder others for things they want rather than embracing the American way of life and work for those things they desire.

I know I seem to be babbling but I have been away for a while and have been frustrated that I have not been able to make my blogs the priority they once were, however in the process of trying to make my blogs successful I also found that I was neglecting my family, and they must always come first, so I am dedicated to keeping my blogs up and I may have to rid myself of a couple but I want to keep people interested and I am going to do my best. If you have any ideas of what you would like to see here please feel free to write me and give me some ideas.

Yes, this blog is for me because I like to write and it helps me open up and get things of my chest that may be holding me down or even making me feel depressed, yet even though I am not positive if I even have any return readers, I want to keep and attract any that I do have or can get.

well this is enough for now, I am going to get this posted, I just want to say may God Bless You, the People of Japan and Libya and any place in the world where hardship is found. and beg you to please come back and visit and see what I am up to.

Duane